Aw shucks, thank you for that deep, hear felt comment, that means a lot to me… 🙂

This is a prime example of everyone being unique and having unique ways of being dealt with. I don’t like to suggest that what they are doing is wrong – because I do not personally believe there is anything wrong at all with viewing pornography.

If it is affecting the individual or their life detrimentally, then it needs to be worked on. Lots of therapists work on the individuals values and I believe this makes them feel that what they are doing is wrong and further represses them – we start going to Victorian values and orthodox early century Catholic schools if we breed that kind of thought process!

I often do a session that works on core values. The individual meets two versions of himself- ‘the man you were when you felt addicted to porn’ and ‘the man you are with the character and values and respect when you are free from porn.’ Very similar to altering perceptual positions. Looking at the addicted self from the outside to gain perspective into the behaviors and values, and then looking at the healthy self to create perspective about what is truly important. You can then objectively look at the values and beliefs that create addiction or freedom.

Of course, I sometimes use Timeline for the guy to experience two timelines of his future. The unconscious mind projects the feelings, thoughts, and values in your two futures. One timeline is based on the current behavior and the other is based on the success, freedom from porn, and living a life you love and are proud of. A slightly altered way of doing a Dickens Pattern. Read my article on ‘Using Self-Hypnosis To Be The Ghost of Christmas Future’ in the articles section of this site to get an idea of how to do that technique for yourself…

Creating a positive response to help the individual be free from the habitual behavior by installing anchors is something else I’ll possibly do. The man then has an anchor that creates freedom and choice, and allows him to easily walk away from his computer, ignore porn when it is presented, and instantly strengthen his resolve. You also want to remove certain anchors that keep the individual stuck in the adiction…There are many associations that make the brain start the process of needing to use porn to find the next high. Many things in the surroundings may have powerful associations that take them down that road. It is good to help disconnect from the emotions that are anchored to objects, such as a computer, that used to make the mind and body compelled to continue.

I also work on belief change, the process that takes old programming and the automatic responses the chap had, and replaces it with a new automatic response – I do this with a swish pattern, though I also give written homework for dealing with this afterwards.

Every hypnotist needs to know how to effectively use direct suggestion to promote the way the mind seeks out real relationships, real intimacy and share the energy of the powerful connection during real sex. This is sometimes absent with porn addicts.

I have helped some to release the past. Mainly because lots of men have guilt, anger, old associations and emotions that are making them turn to porn, these may need to be released. Lots of people find healing and release for many other emotional conflicts so that they can have a more stable emotional state, feel a sense of balance and learn the positive lesson from past mistakes.

I also point out ow to use their own internal dialogue to help set them free and if they have some deep issues that create confusion about their sex life, or had conflicts in the past about sex and would like to bring it back into balance, I work on that too.

We do live in sexually repressed times, but we also live in sexually free times – the sex trade never had it so big, we spend millions on it…. There is much confused ambivalence toward it.

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I sometimes wonder if “porn addiction” is really just a product of a sexually repressed society. Kind of like how alcoholism is far lower in parts of the world where there is no legal drinking age, and where alchohol has no social judgment.