Comments on: Is Masturbation A Powerful Form Of Self-Hypnosis?

By: Jeanie

Jeanie — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 18:25:24 +0000

Well. What a week it has been on Adam’s blog. At least the grand finale does presuppose that it is more a question of a woman’s relationship with her….well, with her”self” shall we say, that is the main factor in the quality of her orgasm, and that therefore the size of the wallet or whatever of the man that she is or isn’t with is pretty irrelevant to how she comes 😉
The Chinese say that to live long and prosper a person needs to look after their Kidney chi, and that either too much or too little sexual stimulation/activity can be damaging to Kidney chi. So it’s again a case of “everything in moderation including excess.”
And I’m sure I once leafed through a fascinating tome called “the multiorgasmic man” or something that explained how a man can wank, and not ejaculate, but instead redirect his chi in a way that makes him come like a girl. Now there’s a thought to play with!

By: Marty Drury

Marty Drury — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 20:10:47 +0000

Sex education at my school wasn’t great. Probably why my first time with a girl included a moment where she put her hands on her hips and exclaimed: “Now come on, Marty! Does that look like it goes in there?” There was also a lot of falling over and goodness knows how we got anything done. Incidently, I learned through experience. I’m not some kind of sexual Frank Spencer falling about the place and muttering: “ooh, Betty!”

At high school, they sat us in a room where the sex ed teacher told us about the different “contraception tools” that he and his wife did or did not use. To avoid this, we convinced him we hadn’t seen a video we’d seen forty times. In this video, a very bad actor went through scenes featuring all the dangers of unprotected sex and then, for some reason, a load of kids from the 1980s had a debate with some “experts” on masturbation. I ask you: who on earth would put “expert on masturbation” on their C.V.

The debate opened with the question: “Is masturbation wrong?” The panel then acted as if they were on Question Time and started going on about the pros and cons which, I am almost sure, included the merits of hiding the mags and porn collection if you hear your Mum coming up the stairs. One of my friends at school would constantly do the Beavis and Butthead laugh every time someone said any word that even sounded slightly sexual so, as you can imagine, he enjoyed this video debate very much.

Sex is a powerful force. Sometimes it sits with love and love is always more powerful than it but sometimes sex does its own thing. It can be both casual and meaningful.

The routes of this paranoia over masturbation do not lie in the Victorian era. Sure, such paranoia was rampant back then but Mr and Mrs upper class didn’t come up with such paranoia whilst having a cup of afternoon tea. The routes of such paranoia extend much further back than the Victorian era. Sure, you had blatant sexism masquerading as science back then but that was just a desperate attempt to find hard evidence for long standing religious and moral views.

Look to the suppression of the female divine and you’ll discover where a lot of the masturbation paranoia comes from. Ah, I’ve used the word “come”. I can hear my old school friend laughing his Beavis and Butthead laugh now.

Incidently, sex for me no longer involves falling over or any Frank Spencer moments. The better half and I explore our desires in a fun way. Her best trick was promising me a wonderful night of hot sex but only if I sat through Sex and the City the movie on DVD and 27 dresses. If I complained once, I was sleeping alone that night. I tried but I just couldn’t do it.

By: Adam Eason

Adam Eason — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:34:33 +0000

Thanks Josh… I have had many, many similar comments emailed, at facebook and elsewhere with that opinion… I appreciate your comments.

Amazing how taboo it all still seems…

Josh, always great hearing from you, thanks – you have a fab weekend too, A.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 14:51:20 +0000

If you want more fuel for your evidently fevered mind … look into this: Mucaura’s Pulsocon Circulator. This was a tool used in Victorian days to “cure” the very hysteria you’re talking about.

Those attitudes and misapprehensions about the effects of masturbation and sex, btw, largely came from the Victorian era, I believe. And it stemmed partly from the religious belief of the time and partly from the medical philosophy at the time (I believe they were still in the four humors period then).

Anyway, have a good weekend, Adam.

Joshua