I like that a lot! “Releasing non-useful feelings” is great way to frame this. I’m going to use that. Thanks. 🙂

Hi Joshua,

Re: “I wonder though if you have any advice for getting friends or clients that aren’t really ready for forgiveness to get over that hurdle….”

Forgiveness is often something people struggle with as they may believe that by forgiving, they are condoning the perpetrator and their actions. Sometimes therefore, not referring to the word ‘forgive’ is useful and frame things in terms of releasing non-useful feelings.

How we explain forgiveness becomes important – holding onto anger may be someone’s right, but it only really hurts the individual holding onto it and becoming embittered or generalising anger as a defence mechanism may feel right and virtuous, but turns lots of people into far lesser versions of themselves.

Best wishes to you, Adam.

It’s annoying to get vapid comments being used as a link to a site that want your traffic – and yes, same thing happens a lot on Instagram.

Best wishes to you Joshua, Adam.

Love that you started this with a Jim Rohn quote! His ideas changed my life a great deal, but particularly on the seasonality of things and that “Discipline is weighed in ounces; regret is weighed in tons.” Wish he had more original programs as most of his stuff is just a rehash of his other stuff, which is a bummer. But I probably needed to hear those lessons over and over, so I suppose it’s not that bad, haha.

I wonder though if you have any advice for getting friends or clients that aren’t really ready for forgiveness to get over that hurdle. A LOT of people tell me that they’re not willing to forgive, anger is their right, if they let go people will hurt them again, etc. I often remind them that to forgive doesn’t mean to accept or allow, that forgiving is more about them than the perpetrator, and that it’s harming them more than the perpetrator to hold onto it. This works in some cases, but in others, it’s just a waste of time… Found anything that can give one better leverage on this position or is it one of those things to just let go of ourselves? Ironically, maybe I should forgive them for not allowing themselves the space to really change because I often take it personally, especially with friends that bemoan situations over and over (I love them and want to help them, see the issue, etc.)…

Nourishing is an area most of us, myself included, neglect or we just do in order to get better at our chosen areas of study (also guilty). Truth-be-told, I created a new 2019 goals list today and after reading this, I went back and added a new category, “Personal Development/Self-Care” so I make sure I plan this into my life. It’s so easy to plan in work, work, and more work, but this leads to intense burnout.

One I would add to this list is to run into the things you fear. I know the hangups and the pains of this well. For instance, I feared I wouldn’t be able to get into the graduate programs I really wanted to. So, I went to a lackluster graduate program I knew I could get into. Now, it’s hard for me to do anything with my degree, it doesn’t help me in any of the areas I really want to work in, and it doubled my student loan debt. Had I taken chances and jumped into my fear, I’d be in a drastically different place in my life. I did the same thing with relationships, roommates, buying property… I learned this lesson the hard way. At this point in life, I run HARD into the things I fear because I’ve seen what happens to your life when you settle for pennies when you could have had dollars… Brutal lesson, but one that I think holds many people back.

I’m excited to read through the rest of your blog! 🙂

Love your awesome response to this. Reminds me of a time someone kept replying to my Instagram, “Hypnosis is the real deal!” I replied to one of his posts about Chicken Paillard, “Chicken Paillard is the real deal!” He promptly blocked me, but seemed to stop posting those comments on my friend’s pages. 🙂

Thanks for taking the time to describe this twice as an awesome post – I also think it is a doubly awesome post.
Thanks for the awesome comment, your comments really are awesome comments.

With my very best wishes, Adam Eason

Ps. I removed the link from your comment. I only allow them when people contribute something (awesome) of use to the thread.

Thanks for taking the time to write and say so Ben.

Best wishes to you, Adam.